|Born in the Wrong Body?|
At just three years old Noah would gravitate more to his sister's toys than that of his brothers. He enjoyed playing with girl toys such as dolls which made my husband uncomfortable. He was encouraged to play with his brothers but he always wound up in his sister's room. When he was four, he got into my makeup bag and put on lipstick and eye shadow when no one was looking. He came out of the bathroom smiling from ear to ear only to be told to wash it off by my husband. Noah realized he was doing something "wrong" so he tried to hide his behavior from his dad.
By age five we knew this was not just a phase he was going through. Noah wanted to start wearing girl clothes just like his sister and that's also when he began telling us he was a girl. We explained that boys have a p*nis like he does which makes him a boy and not a girl. That only led him to wanting to cut it off, that's how badly he hated his body. He said he wants to be a girl because he feels like a girl inside.
I caught him in his bedroom one day wearing his sister's dress. He proceeded to tell me once again that he was a girl and he hated having a p*nis. I became very concerned about his well being and made the decision to take him shopping for an outfit. I explained to him that he would only be able to wear it at home because other people don't understand what he feels and they would be nasty to him. I kept it a secret from my husband because I knew he would not approve of my decision. He had a hard time trying to accept his son might be gay, let alone that his son wanted to live his life as a girl.
I finally decided to tell my husband that I support our son and his feelings about being born in the wrong body. We as parents need to support Noah so he doesn't feel depressed that he was born a boy. I also told him about allowing our son to wear girl clothes in the house. He was upset but after many talks together we are prepared to stand by our child and accept him for what he is and what he is not.
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