I watched the video to see what she saw and thankfully it wasn't too graphic. I asked immediately why she was looking that kind of stuff up in the first place and she said she clicked on the video not knowing what it was. I wanted to know if her friends might have mentioned anything sex related to her but she said no and she did not know what sex was. She started crying because she thought she was in trouble. I decided at that point to have the sex talk with her. I did not get into the details but I explained where babies really come from. I let her know she could talk to me about anything and I would answer any questions she has now and in the future. I mentioned her friends might tell her things that are not necessarily true about sex and she should come to me to get the correct information. Like I said earlier, I did not go too deep because of her age. I plan on having more open talks talks with her as she gets older.  

My mother never had the sex talk with me and I ended up finding out on my own. I feel it's important to have open communication with your children and to let them know you are there for them. I did not have a good relationship with my mother growing up and I still don't to this day. My mission in life is to be the exact opposite to my daughter that my mother was to me. I don't want to be friends with my child but I do want us to be able to talk about things and to let her know she can always count on me. 

Now that the subject of sex has been pried open I no longer have to worry about how I'm going to bring it up and when. I'm not happy how it happened but I'm relieved that it's done. I know other parents think that not discussing sex is the right choice for their child but I feel good about how I handled my situation. Kids are going to find out about sex one way or another whether we like it or not. Not talking about it does not make it go away and talking about it does not mean they're going to run out and do it just because you had the talk with them. 

I stand by my decision and my husband and I agree this is the right choice for our family. I rather have my daughter be informed so one day when she decides she's ready she will know how to be safe, be responsible and respect her body. Let's face it most people do not wait to have sex till they are married and teenage pregnancy and STD's are out of control in this country. Of course I would prefer my daughter remain a virgin till marriage and who knows she just might. I'm very curious how other parents feel about this topic. Comments are welcome.