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Story by Peainapod
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Raising Breana as a single mom hasn't always been easy. Being solely responsible for another life has many challenges. My daughter's dad split when she was a baby and I found out a few years ago that he died from cancer. I did a search for him hoping to reunite him with his daughter but it was too late.

 

I have no contact with my own parents because my mom didn't believe me when I told her my father was molesting me from the age of five through thirteen. He denied ever laying a hand on me and my mother chose to believe him over me. Once I told her, my father stopped coming to my room in the middle of the night when my mother was sleeping. But even though the abuse stopped I never felt comfortable in their house and when I turned of legal age I moved in with my older cousin. 

overprotectivemomBeing a single mom has its challenges but I wouldn't change my decision to keep my child for anything. I don't believe in abortion and putting her up for adoption wasn't something I could live with. Over the years I have been really careful not to bring the wrong man around Breana. I have always had a fear that what happened to me with my own father could possibly happen to my daughter. I never had any boyfriend spend the night for fear that she could be molested. This posed some problems in my relationships with men and hence that is why I have never been married.

Since my own father broke my trust in the worst possible way I have not been able to trust any man completely and I probably never will. My worst fear would be to find out someone took advantage of my daughter. When I was victimized as a child it brought about some anxiety and depression. I often blamed myself for what happened and it hurt like hell that my mother did not believe me. For that reason I have been extremely overprotective and possessive over my daughter and I do everything in my power to prevent that from happening to her. I allow her friends to spend the night but Breana does not and will not sleep over anyone's house. Yes, I am being overprotective, but I look at it as being cautious. There are too many child predators out there in the world and I know that I am providing a safe place for my child in my own home.


 

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0 #2 I agree but...ap 2011-06-30 15:07
Although I totally understand your want to be protective of your daughter, one day she will want to know why you are this way. She will grow up and want to know why she cannot go out and interact with people like she will see her friends do. Children grow up and will demand to know why. Mistrust could also be an issue, she may learn that she cannot trust anyone and will be unable to lead her life as she chooses later.
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+2 #1 All too familiar.Christina 2011-06-14 18:48
I too was molested as a young child. My abuser was my mother's live in boyfriend. It went on for many years before she found out. I was ashamed and scared to tell her. When she found out it was a nightmare she didn't believe it then she actually blamed me. It killed me. I now have children and I completely agree with being protective. I won't let my kids play outside alone for fear of them being kidnapped. I'm super cautious about who they're around and when we go anywhere. I feel it's for the best, because I mean is there such thing as being too safe in this day and age. It's being a good parent. I stand by protecting them from any hurt or heartbreak I can. Good luck with finding a partner, you will. ;-)
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