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Found out Boyfriend is a Pedophile PDF Print E-mail
Story by Dairefris
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The title of my story says it all but here are the details of my situation...My boyfriend and I dated for almost a decade. I always wanted to marry him but he said if we got married our relationship most likely would fall apart. So instead we have been living together with no plans of ever getting married. I was hoping he'd change his mind at some point but he did not budge.

 

I was not thrilled with this arrangement but since I'm no spring chicken I did not want to start out fresh with someone new. Instead I settled and made peace that we would be together always without the ceremony part. He treated me well and our relationship was good so I hung on to that and secretly hoped he'd change his mind one day.

Things took on a new turn a while back when police came to our door and searched the place for kiddie porn. We were both home at the time and I seriously thought it was all a big misunderstanding. Our computer was seized and my boyfriend was taken in for questioning and later arrested. The police found pictures of small children involved in sexual acts with adults, and other disturbing things as well. He was found to have been communicating with other known pedophiles over the web and exchanging pictures and information.

pedophileI was totally floored upon finding this out about the man I loved and trusted for all these years. It was kind of hard to believe he was capable of such a thing in the beginning but the police charged him so obviously they had plenty of evidence because he is doing time now. It makes me sick to my stomach knowing he was getting off on pictures and videos of little children involved in sexual acts. Now I know what he was up to late at night after I went to bed.

Worst part is he has children of his own from a previous relationship. He did not see them much anyways because their mom moved away to another state and I guess you could categorize him as a dead beat dad. It seems to me that him not being in his kids lives was a good thing because they avoided possibly being molested by him. 

He of course denies any wrong doing in the case against him but the state is making sure he stays off the streets so he's not able to act on his sick desires. I have not spoken to him or gone to see him because I am disgusted by his actions and want nothing to do with him ever again. 

I still have days when I wake up and think this was all a bad dream but then I realize it's real and I have to find the strength to move on. I have since moved out of our apartment and tried to start a new life. It hasn't been easy but each day the pain of his betrayal lessens and I'm glad to be rid of such a sick individual.
 

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0 #105 hang in there girl — kerriT 2012-03-26 22:39
That would make me sick too, I don't blame you for not wanting to be with him ever. A man that would harm a child like that is not a real man. You are doing the right thing, I would stay away from the creep!
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0 #104 My life just fell apart — Anonymous 2012-02-01 15:16
I recently found in my boyfriend's computer children's photos, they were only in undies and in small skirts. Even not explicit, I found that disturbing and put him out of the house. He searches all kinds of porn and said that he found that interest only a couple months ago but he always feels guilty and deletes them. We were thinking in having a child next year and i couldn't stand that idea, not without knowing for sure. Can he be considered a pedo, or am i just overreacting?

*Sorry for my english, it's not my first language...
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+2 #103 !!! — ReRe 2011-11-20 20:02
Quoting Charles:
You disgust me. In his time of need you abandoned him. No wonder he did not want to marry you. He knew that he could not depend on you to stick by him through thick and thin. You deserve to be alone. You make me sick.



Charles, you make ME sick. You are disgusting. Just because you are a friggin pedophile doesn't mean you have to bug us with your disgrace on the human population.

As a kid I have been raped and violated more times than I can count. I think sex offenders should get castrated.
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0 #102 Don't Beat Yourself Up — amnightus 2011-08-13 15:03
We all make mistakes. Can't change the past. No matter how old you are, you are never NEVER too old for love.

If you are too old to have your own children you can always adopt. Similarly, you can find another man and start a family together no matter how old you are.

Don't get hung up on this, forget it. Wipe it from your mind and heart and start over.

Wish you the best, good luck
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-3 #101 Pedophile — Jeffro 2011-05-27 13:48
Man, all you fools are trippin'. All I'm saying is that this guy is in prison now, where he will most likely be sodomized. Hopefully he enjoys it.
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+3 #100 RE: Found out Boyfriend is a Pedophile — SHELLY 2011-04-13 06:40
Quoting Charles:
You disgust me. In his time of need you abandoned him. No wonder he did not want to marry you. He knew that he could not depend on you to stick by him through thick and thin. You deserve to be alone. You make me sick.


You Charles are a very disturbed individual. How dare you put this woman down who is obviously a victim here. You too fit the profile of a pedophile. Hopefully there is a way for the police to run your ISP address so they can check you out and keep an eye on you too. Until then, I suggest if you feel so strongly about the fact that this woman should have stood by her pedophile boyfriend, why don't you take your freaky a$$ over to where he is and you stand by him, and do us all a favor and stfu!
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+7 #99 RE: Found out Boyfriend is a Pedophile — SweetPea 2011-04-06 09:07
There is nothing good or right about this man. I was married to a ped. and they are very good at hiding it. I knew something was wrong but couldn't figure out what it was. He was sick and for a long time I wondered what was wrong with me. He showed NO interest in me and a couple of years after the divorce he was caught in the act with a small child. I realized that the only love I ever had for him was fabricated in my mind, because he WAS NOT the person I believed he was. Shame on him.
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-83 #98 RE: Found out Boyfriend is a Pedophile — Charles 2011-03-23 04:52
You disgust me. In his time of need you abandoned him. No wonder he did not want to marry you. He knew that he could not depend on you to stick by him through thick and thin. You deserve to be alone. You make me sick.
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+6 #97 RE: Found out Boyfriend is a Pedophile — Rick 2011-03-21 06:42
I don’t know where your are or how far along you are into wanting to discuss this but I am praying for you. I believe that I may be able to help you because I was a victim of sexual assault. At the age of eleven, a fireman attacked me and enticed me into a relationship, which lasted more than fifteen years.

So, if you’re strong enough to listen to where I am coming from, you may be able to understand where your friend’s mind is and can better adjust to the shock of it. I’d like to help you move on. I don’t know your age but I am turning 60, this March. I am faced with celebrating my birthdays in silence. I have a problem with dealing with social events and have difficulty enjoying togetherness with friends and family.

My parents and older brother have passed away. I have four surviving sisters but they have little, if anything to do with me. It hurts but all I can do is hide the pain and pretend it doesn’t exist. I do have my church family and my support group. I’m doing much, much better than before. However, there are others out there who can benefit from my love and concern for them. Perhaps I can be a blessing to you, in some way. I am not out to hurt anyone.

I am also a dad and grandpa. I am now bleessed with the chance of being there for my 32 year old son, Dave and his wife, Andrea. They have a 3 year old son, Nathaniel. They are beginning a life of their own and I don’t want to destroy their life together.

They were so kind to me in making me a part of their wedding and it really choked me up to have donned a tuxedo and to have been included in their wedding party. Those are tender memories for me and have helped me heal a bit more from my past abusive situation.

So, if you care to get together and talk, I think that we could help you come to grips with reality. Who knows? We could become best of friends but we won’t know that, until you choose to share. Until then, you take care of yourself and I’ll be waiting for your reply.
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+4 #96 RE: Found out Boyfriend is a Pedophile — Staci 2011-03-21 06:39
This same thing happened to me, only I had children involved. It’s unreal to me that people this sick can appear to be completely normal. There were no signs that my husband was a Pedophile. He was not my kids’ dad but nevertheless, it sucked. I’m sorry you had to go through that.
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