I was married at 18 years old to my childhood sweetheart. We have 2 children together. On our 15th wedding anniversary or around that I found out that my husband was a cross dresser and had been the entire time we were married. He also stole women's clothes from stores. I found clothes hidden in our basement and thought it was those of another woman. That I could understand but when I confronted him he said they were his and his parents knew he had been doing it since the age of 6. I didn't know what to say, as a woman of nature we think we can fix everything. WRONG! I lived with it for another year until it got out of hand, I knew it didn't matter how I felt anymore. How could I not know about it. I trusted him loved him and planned on sharing the rest of our lives together. Guess not. Since I found out he didn't seem like he cared how I felt. He would be online with cross dressers like him and he has gone to Chicago to meet them. 

I was divorced in 1998. I was so mixed up about all of it, all the lies how could he not tell me? I married someone and I had no clue who he really was, our entire marriage was a lie. In 2002 we tried to work things out he said I will never hurt you again, will always tell the truth and I no longer have those feelings. I believed him. STUPID GIRL. He took me for everything I had, he wrote bad checks from my account and the checks were bouncing like crazy. I worked 3 jobs with 2 children with no child support. I lost my house and my world came totally crashing down. My trust in people was gone. He had nothing to do with our children they haven't seen him in over 10 years. 

Now my daughter is 28 and is getting married and out of the blue she texted me and said that dad is walking her down the isle. She talks about him as the father of the year. So since then her and my relationship has been destroyed. Had she forgotten all the pain he caused? She said she couldn't live with herself without having him in the wedding. Since this happened I feel like I'm reliving all this pain again. I have been sick since all this. I don't know if I can handle the rehearsal and dinner and being there in the same room with him. Even in the church where he would lie and get money from them saying his child is sick and needs cash. The wedding is in Sept and I just now bought a dress. I got meds from my doc for panic attacks and blood pressure meds. How could she have me go through all this and who knows he probably won't show up. In the meantime she asked her brother to walk her down the aisle, she hasn't told him he's not. My family doesn't want to go because of this and how she makes me out to be the bad one on fb, which she won't be my friend on but is his. I'm waiting till he hurts her again and she comes crying to me. Sorry I'm not going to be there. She says I'm not happy for her. Whatever, I love her to death but I don't like her and what she's become. Advise me on what to do please.