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Why is it not ok to want to be Single? PDF Print E-mail
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From watching my friends relationships and the drama that they go through, plus my own relationship experience makes me want to be single. I have watched many friends get blinded by love and lose control over their life. I can't live like that because I am perfectly content with how my life is. Why does your life have to be rearranged because you're in a relationship?  I work a lot, pay my own bills, have my own house and car, which all of the above I have worked hard to get on my own. I guess you can call me a strong independent woman who wears that as a badge of honor. I can survive without a man to take care of me or pay for things. Most men find this very intimidating, but I am who I am and will not change for anyone. You will either accept me as I am or don't be a part of my life. My attitude is what is and I am very blunt about it. 

 

Anyhow, this is my dilemma. It appears to me that wanting to be single is not acceptable in today's society. I don't think this is in my head because I am asked all the time where my boyfriend is and when I reply that I don't want one, I get looked at like I am a monster. Someone once told me that there is something wrong with me because I don't want a boyfriend. But why does there have to be something wrong with me because I choose not to have a relationship?

Single-happy_A little more about me is I have a slight mental disability. It takes a long time for me to understand things and some decision making is impossible for me. This disability has always interfered with all of my romantic relationships as my significant other does not have the patience or want to understand. I am like whatever about it because if there is a man out there that will accept me with this disability and has the understanding and patience I require, God will send him to me. If I am able to beat the odds of my disability and work hard for what I want rather than the doctors predicting I'll be in a nursing home all my life, surely there is a man out there that can deal with my disability as I have.

Besides the point, I still don't want a relationship and all the ones that seem to fall into my lap and sucker me into one, I am getting real sick and tired of. They all end up in the same old, sad story with me hurt and the guy feeling no kind of remorse but some sort of unfulfillment. So this is the question really, is there something wrong with me for not wanting to try for a relationship?  Is it ok to be alone and not want to be with someone?


 

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0 #3 Single BlissBobi1229 2011-11-05 19:08
Hey! Single? Why not! I was married for many years to a guy who was in & out of our lives as he pleased. The children were my top priority, & he made lots of money, allowing private schools, school trips, colleges and cars for the kids.Then he died.

Men I have dated are so not what I want to let into my life, so I am single, enjoying being my own boss, traveling, and being happy, all working for me. And I won't settle, I want a real man, had the other, nope never again.
Keep on sister, if you are meant to have a great relationship, it will come, and if not, that's lovely too! Sister Single
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+1 #2 a guy's point of viewDanny 2011-10-05 18:31
I don't think there's anything wrong with being single. I do believe cynthia is right that people don't want to be alone. People need to understand themselves before they take on a second half. The drama is something no one wants but then again you need to set the guidlines in the first place, is this relationship just for play or see how it goes. When you're ready for a relationship most of the games go away but I know it's not easy to go from a single life to a commited relationship...need that me time. One more thing..when you do have that someone it is sure a great thing.
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+2 #1 Independent WomanCynthia 2011-09-22 15:59
It is absolutely okay to be single. I believe many people are not comfortable being single and they often settle for the wrong person just so they're not alone. Although I'm married now, before I met my husband I was not looking for a mate and was perfectly happy being boyfriend-less. I think it is great that you are taking the time to truly get to know yourself. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being an independent woman.
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