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My father is a drug addict. His drug of choice is meth. Watching him lose everything because of his drug addiction is infuriating.  He used to be a normal dad, now I can't stand being around him. He should be a role model to me and not a constant source of disappointment. My friends parents don't use drugs. They work to support their families and not their drug habits.  I never invite friends over because I don't want them to know the truth. I don't want anyone to know my father is a druggie.  Parents are supposed to set good examples for their kids, and not lead them down the wrong path. 

 

My parents divorced when I was just three years old. They fought all the time over my father's drug use. He used to smoke weed when they met but over time he tried other drugs and eventually got hooked on meth.  My dad used to have a good job but he missed so many days they fired him. He collected unemployment and used the money to buy drugs. Once the unemployment benefits ran out he was desperate to get his next fix so he was forced to get a job. 
 
meth-addict-dadMy mother gave him plenty of chances but he never stayed clean for long.  She eventually kicked him out of house and he ended up moving into a really nice condo. The landlord evicted him shortly after because he stopped paying rent. All his money was going to buy drugs. He now lives in a cheap apartment in a bad section of town. I lived with my mother till I was fourteen and started acting out. I decided to move in with my dad and witnessed his life fall to pieces. I like living with him because he leaves me alone to do what I want. My mother was always in my business and going through my stuff. She's afraid my father is a bad influence on me. She doesn't want me to turn out like him, addicted to drugs. 
 
One thing is for sure I will never touch that crap. I see first hand what drugs do to people. One day I plan on having a family of my own and I will make sure I put them first. I lost all the respect I had for my dad at this point. All he cares about is getting his next fix. If he loved me at all he would go to rehab and get clean already. I hate what he did to our family. Why did he choose drugs over me?
 

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0 #7 advice — Chance1 2011-07-06 16:52
I know first hand what you are going through. Number one- my father was also addicted to drugs for my whole life, and I saw what it did to my family. I also swore I would never touch the stuff, until I was introduced to pain meds and to make a long story short was addicted to them in no time. Now, as for seeing what it did to my family and then actually becoming an addict myself, I can tell you a lot.

First of all, I know you think it seems like he's choosing drugs over you, but this is a sick disease and he can not help the things he's doing. Also, he is going to have to hit rock bottom and want to get help himself. No one can do anything for him. Have you tried to ask him to go for help?
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+2 #6 RE: Drug Addicted Dad — dwight 2011-02-01 16:57
I'm so sorry to hear that about your father. It really hit home because I was that father. I have 4 children and was strung out for many years and left my children by the wayside and continued on the path to self destruction. BUT THERE IS HOPE!
I've been clean for about 5 years now but I missed out on so much. Now I'm 42 years old and a grandfather and I have a wonderful relationship with all 4 of my children and grandson. Keep your head up.
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0 #5 RE — Guest 2011-01-11 20:47
He didn't choose drugs over you. He doesn't realize there's actually a choice there.
If you want to get him help, get him PROFESSIONAL help. My dad was also addicted to meth for many, many years. So long that his body basically depended on it. He quit cold turkey for his family, did really great for about 6 months, and then died of a massive heart attack and a stroke on both sides of his brain. His body depended on the drugs, and eventually gave up on trying and on itself.
Keep your head up honey, and get a counselor that can help you deal with this, since you seem to be blaming yourself. And I'm sure that counselor can give you resources to help him professionally.
Good luck and God bless.
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0 #4 RE: drug addicted dad — Guest 2010-07-02 21:49
:sad: I'm soooo sorry about what's happening with your dad. I have never touched drugs in my whole life, but I also experienced what it's like to have a dad who abuses drugs. Just the fact of knowing that your own father does drugs is so painful/heart aching that it puts you in a world where you're lost and confused. I know for a fact that you need to be the bigger person here and do what you can to get your father off drugs. I know it's not easy.. not at all. But after all the hard work that you go through for what you love, in the end it will all be worth it! Just keep your head up!
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0 #3 RE: Drug Addicted Dad — freaky49player 2010-06-08 12:41
Clean and sober today.

I am a recovering addict and alcoholic, and my drug of choice was crack cocaine. My reason for quitting was being the legal guardian of my sister's seven children. I did not like the way it made me feel,and I had to always feel that I was in control. You are not in control when drugs or anything becomes a need and not a want. I thank God today for answering my prayer. My prayer was to help me because I knew there was no one else that could. Your father did not choose drugs over you, but allowed himself to be caught up in a cycle that many of us do. It is not easy to quit and if you succeed always remember that one is too many and a thousand is not enough. I am so glad that the children were too young to know exactly what was going on. I managed to quit before it got out of control; but my 23 year old daughter has been addicted to crack for 4 years. She was born addicted to drugs, and I can not help her, because she has to help herself. Maybe your dad will wake up before he hurts himself any worse than he is already doing. Believe that your dad loves you,he is very ill right now.
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+1 #2 RE: Drug Addicted Dad — Guest 2010-05-07 02:55
I was on meth for years it consumes every facet of ur being its not that u lost him its just that hes lost if u need someone to talk to im a recovering addict myself email me.
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+3 #1 I'm sorry — Guest 2010-05-06 16:59
I used to be a drug addict and then I had a baby. When I was hooked on heroin, I didn't care about anything but the drugs when I was on them because they alter your mind.

I am NOT in any way making excuses for him. But if something doesn't click in what once was HIS mind, he will continue to use. He has to want to stop and don't think for a second that it is your fault, it's not. Sometimes people can't take control of their minds back.

It is a sad thing when parents can't change but it happens all the time! You don't worry about what he is doing anymore. Worry about making your life great and then someday you will change the cycle and make awesome little kids that make good choices because of you. That is all you can do, change what will become of your future so it's not like his.

You are a stronger person thanks to this and I know it sucks but all you can do is make sure history doesn't ever repeat itself! Praying for you and your family (and your dad) he's gonna need it!
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