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My husband and I have been married for 8 years. At the beginning of our marriage he was sober and after we had been married about 2 years he started drinking some and I later found out he had been using drugs behind my back. We separated for a while over this and then got back together and he swore it would never happen again. For the last 3 years he has not been sober 1 day. He drinks everyday. I have found pills on him. He has went through lots of money and has lied to me so many times. I do not trust him at all. He lies all the time to me and to others. I have begged him to go to rehab but he says that he has done that before and he does not want to set himself up for another failure.

 

husband-addictI am so sick of all of it. I have tried to stand by him and help him. He has worked at 7 different places in the last 3 years. He gets drunk and misses work, passes out in the living room and drools on himself and drops food on himself. I am so depressed all the time. I feel like I have not been able to take care of myself at all. I have gained 60 pounds in the last 3 years and 4 months ago I found out that I have COPD. I have quit smoking and I am trying to start taking care of me. I am so angry at him and I am not sure if I still love him or not. I have been to Al-Anon and I am trying to decide if I should divorce him or not. I feel like I am at the end of my rope. What do you do when the alcoholic/ addict refuses to get help?
 

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+1 #3 RE: Living with an addict — Molisa 2011-08-11 09:34
Sad to say but chances are he's never going to get clean since he refuses to see he has a problem that he can't solve on his own. Keep the focus on you and consider leaving him. Divorce might be your only option in this case. Take good care of yourself.
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-1 #2 RE: Living with an addict — Tracy W 2011-08-09 09:43
It is time to start taking care of you. He might never get help for his problems. You can't force him to seek treatment and it doesn't sound like he realizes how he's affecting you. Try to give him an ultimatum and if he doesn't go to rehab, best move you can make is to leave him. Good luck
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0 #1 addiction — chalabis 2011-08-08 04:57
Honey, I have dealt with a drug addict for 16 years and it doesn't get any better! They won't get help until they are ready so don't think you or your kids are gonna change it because you're not! Run, run as fast as you can, otherwise you are gonna live a life of hell! Find your happy again because if you lose that then you're gonna get screwed up as well! Oh and the worst thing you can do is feel sorry for them….that's why I am 18 years in this crap, because I have a huge heart! I hope this helped a little! I'm sure you're a strong woman, we all are...so pull up your big girl panties and get out and go make a better life for yourself!
Take care sweetie...you can do it!
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