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Story by Lydia
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I never thought I would be the kind of woman who would cheat on her man. I was always so against cheating and I'm ashamed to admit that I've been unfaithful to my husband. I didn't mean for it to happen but fact is, it happened and I can't take it back. Here is my story.

 

I was very career oriented when I was younger and I was studying to be an attorney when I met my husband. We fell head over heels in love and before I blinked I was married and expecting our first baby. My plans of finishing law school were put on hold once our daughter was born. We decided it would be best if I would be a stay at home mom for the time being. A couple of years later I became pregnant with my second baby. I accepted the fact that my life took a different route and I thoroughly enjoy being a devoted mom to two wonderful girls.

The plan was eventually down the line I would go back to school and get my degree. Well, things don't always go as planned and over time I changed my mind about my career path. Once both my children were in elementary school I decided it was time for me to get back to the working world. I didn't realize till I went back to work how much I missed being in the company of grown ups and being able to have adult conversations with someone other than my husband and friends. I got a job at a hospital and that is where I met Mike. He is an anesthesiologist there and he is also married. When I first saw him, something inside me knew that we would be more than just friends.  Mike is a very good looking man and although I consider myself attractive I did not think he would ever be interested in me. I couldn't help to be more drawn to him every time I ran into him at work. It's as if there was a magnetic field drawing the two of us together.

cheating-unfaithful-wifeAs far as my relationship with my husband, things were generally fine and I considered myself happily married. I tried to get Mike off my mind but couldn't. I found myself fantasizing about him even while I was making love to my husband. I did not tell anyone including my best friend about how I was feeling because I though I was just going through a phase that would pass, and I didn't want to make a big deal out of it.

We flirted on and off, but things changed at this past Christmas party at work. My husband couldn't make the party and his wife was visiting some family so we ended up spending almost the whole evening together. Once the party was over, Mike asked me to go out for  a drink. I thought about it for a second and quickly accepted his invite. Afterwards, we ended up getting a room at a hotel, and the rest is history. This affair of ours has been going on for almost seven months. We both agree this is just a fling and will never go beyond it. He has no plans of leaving his wife, and I won't leave my husband. When we get together it is strictly for sex and nothing else.      


 

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0 #11 RE: Unfaithfulanonymous 2011-07-26 17:09
I feel bad for his wife & your husband. It's a terrbile thing to do something like this to someone you're supposed to love and care about. Not only will you be messing up your husbands' whole world because of your selfishness but your kids too. Unfortunately for you karma is a b*tch & will be back around to get you.
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+2 #10 RE: Unfaithfulamnightus 2011-02-02 19:24
Quoting Guest:
One or the other spouse will find out sooner of later. ... You are fooling yourself. You have three choices as I see it:
1. Stop this relationship NOW and come clean with your husband.
2. Stop this relationship NOW, do not tell your husband, and take what you have done to your grave.
3. Continue and lose everything that you value.
Ask yourself this, How would I feel if my husband was with my best friend?


I more or less agree with this sentiment. I won't judge you, but I will say that mathematically, if you guys are 99.9% super careful, that it is still only a matter of time before you get caught. So, get this fling out of your system, screw each other's brains out and then end it.

Seriously, you'd be surprised how you will randomly get caught. But you will get caught. I'd say it's almost impossible to carry on an affair like yours for more than a year, two at most...before the math catches up with you and you get caught in some super strange unbelieveable way. Like your husband is having a business lunch on the "other" side of town, gets lost, and sees your car pulling into a hotel.

Anyways, have fun, get it out of your system but stop before you get caught.
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-2 #9 He sounds familiar...Guest 2011-01-05 06:47
Hmmm....is this Mike southern by any chance? Works out a lot and has a body from heaven? Dark hair...sexy as all hell.... did he do his interning in Rhode Island???
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+6 #8 re:unfaithfullovely777 2010-12-25 12:57
HI, I FEEL SORRY FOR YOUR HUSBAND AND YOUR BOYFRIEND'S WIFE. IT IS THE MOST SAD THING TO BE LIVING A LIE THAT SOMEONE YOU'RE MARRIED TO AND IN LOVE WITH WHOM YOU THINK FEELS THE SAME WAY ABOUT YOU IS BETRAYING YOU.

YOU NEED TO STOP. I HOPE YOU DON'T GET PREGNANT BY YOUR BOYFRIEND THEN YOU WON'T KNOW WHO THE DAD IS. AND IF AN STD POPS UP HOW WILL YOU EXPLAIN THAT TO YOUR HUSBAND? IF YOU LOVE YOUR HUSBAND WHICH I DON'T THINK YOU LOVE HIM THE WAY YOU SHOULD, THEN YOU WILL STOP THIS SELFISH ACT!
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+2 #7 No blaming the victim!Guest 2010-10-29 14:41
Do not tell yourself you cheat because of something your husband isn't doing, that's a lie. It is still not OK, you're just trying to blame the victim. Well, one of the victims, anyway.

What she's doing to her kids is even worse, they have no defenses. Well what can you do, some people are going to screw up their lives and that's the way it's always been. But do not deceive yourself. You're doing a terrible thing to people who love you, and you're losing people's respect because you deserve to.
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0 #6 play role reversalGuest 2010-09-14 06:03
How would you feel if he was cheating, or has cheated? Overall, I believe it to be a selfish act. Cheating is going behind one's back, so...if it is only about the sex, then express this to your husband. Maybe not telling him of the affair, just get a reaction about how he would feel about you being with other men. He may be receptive, and you could continue with this affair. Maybe there would be rules. Are you open to allowing him to do the same things you are? It's a tough situation, I'm married and want to cheat for selfish reasons, but I don't because I'm not ready to lose everything I have right now. We have had discussions, and it was a definite NO! But I would allow her to go out do so if she wanted to. So you never really know. I just hope you guys are at least being safe about it, happens everywhere, we see it on the news more often, very risky. I'm sure coworkers have to know something is going on, and beans can be spilt a 1000 different ways. Better to cover your butt, before you end up losing it.
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+1 #5 It happensGuest 2010-09-13 10:31
I uderstand what you are going through. I had 3 affairs on my x-husband... at first I also considered myself "happily married". As affair 1 ended, I still thought I was happy. As affair 2 started and soon ended I thought that I was happily married for the most part and the reason I was being adventurous was because my husband was not enough in the bedroom. As affair 3 started, I became more emotionally attached to him, but still only doing it b/c my husband was not a good lover. As time went on I began to realize that I was not in another man's arms b/c of the bad sex. It was really truly because my husband was not meeting my emotional needs also. Shortly after I ended affair 3 and my marriage. My suggestion would be to be honest with yourself and make sure that you are only there for the sex. I realized all of the pleasure that I felt with sex were very overpowering to my lack of emotions with my husband. Luckily we have no children, so I can not even try to imagine how that also has weight on this entire situation. If you realize that your marriage is not so "happy" I really urge you to have a straight/honest conversation with yourself to evaluate why you are not only sleeping with your husband.

Really you are not the only one doing it, not a monster, and not a w#ore.
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+2 #4 Dumbas$sPrincess31 2010-09-12 22:38
Really? Really?, "He has no plans of leaving his wife, and I won't leave my husband" How about letting THEM make that decision? Liars and cheats...and the sad thing is, you're not just cheating on your husband, you are cheating on your kids also...Hope he finds out and takes you to court and gets custody...Dumbas$!
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+6 #3 Seriously?Guest 2010-08-24 12:52
Wow, congrats on being a cheating wh0re.
Why are you still with your husband if you're phucking around with another man?
You're a piece of sh!t, honestly.
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+3 #2 you do u think you're kiddingGuest 2010-08-24 09:33
One or the other spouse will find out sooner of later. Most likely both of you will lose everything you have worked for. You will lose the respect of your husband, you in-laws, possibly you children. You could even lose your job and the respect of your co-workers. Since this is "only about sex" you will not have him anymore either. You are fooling yourself. You have three choices as I see it:
1. Stop this relationship NOW and come clean with your husband.
2. Stop this relationship NOW, do not tell your husband, and take what you have done to your grave.
3. Continue and lose everything that you value.
Ask yourself this, How would I feel if my husband was with my best friend?
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