One thing I can say for him is that he does work hard to provide for his family. I would also say he's a workaholic. When he is home, he's either watching TV or is busy on the computer. I guess my chief complaint would be the lack of time he devotes to his family. I don't think my husband fully appreciates all that I do for him and it makes me feel unfulfilled and unappreciated.

We argue in front of our kids and I hate it. Once he sets me off I can't control what comes out of my mouth. I know that's one thing I need to work on. The last thing I want is for my kids to think that it's okay to belittle your spouse. I really don't want to set a bad example like my parents did for me. I guess I should be thankful that he doesn't physically abuse me or cheat on me (as far as I know he hasn't cheated).

I have just about lost all desire to be intimate with him. It's hard to have romantic feelings for someone who only pays attention to you when they want sex. I need more than that. I tried explaining this to him but it has not sunk in and things are still the same. I imagined my marriage very different than what it has become. I know there are couples that are worse off than us but that truly doesn't make me feel any better about my situation.