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PLEASE tell me life with Abuse is not the Norm PDF Print E-mail
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Needing a hero, a friend or someone to talk to please. I don't do chat rooms or personals. I have been in a relationship going on 10 years. The guy I'm with is very abusive. I always seem to have bruises and I have many scars from over the years. When I call the police, he runs and they can't find him. They won't even come out anymore when I call. He tried to run me off a cliff at Lake Anna, so I sold my van. I couldn't look at it anymore. He doesn't work, he just drinks a lot with his buddies. I haven't had any friends in 8 years and I have no family close by. I'm living in his home and I have no car of my own. I don't know what to do. I want to leave but have nowhere to go. I have 2 parrots and 3 dogs...2 huskies (outside) large kennels and a Rottie that is my best friend. I can't find anywhere to go. All I can pay is about $300.00 per month.

 

abused-womanI guess I'm writing this because I just had to tell someone...What are my choices? I love my pets and I can't just throw them away...They are all I have. I'm scared not knowing when he is coming back or his condition or what he will do. Please someone talk to me. Help me get through this please. I just don't know what to do anymore. I pray all the time for answers. I'm a good person with heart and soul and know the Lord is with me every minute of each and every day.

I guess I'm looking for hope and a friend. Thanks to all who read this...GOD BLESS
 

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0 #6 LEAVE! — Karrie 2011-04-12 17:24
You are in a very dangerous situation and you need to find a way to get out ASAP. There has to be someone you can call to help you leave. It is very likely your boyfriend will hurt you really bad or even kill you. The animals can be fostered temporarily till you get back on your feet. Get out before it's too late!
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0 #5 Help — Sel 2011-04-12 07:27
Understanding the lack of information given on your location...seek out a shelter for battered women, surely you can find a helpful resource to assist you. I am a survivor of a 10 year abusive relationship. You obviously know this is not the best situation for you to continue being in. Your life is valuable, take care to remove yourself immediately or your beloved pets will not have an owner to love them for much longer.

Your abuser's violence seems like it has been escalting for years...the time is now to get out!! He's a loser and finds relief/satisfaction taking out his self-pity on you. You deserve better and a long life! I only wish there was more than words to convince you to leave this bad situation...I've helped a couple of women here where I live and gained a new friendship out of one. Be strong, take the required actions to remove yourself before your new home becomes 6 feet under!! I wish you the best & pray for you!!
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0 #4 help — jnnfrbdn 2011-04-09 18:06
http://www.thehotline.org/
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0 #3 RE: PLEASE tell me life with Abuse is not the Norm — jane 2011-04-09 16:39
It's totally not worth risking your live. Me and my boyfriend moved into a house and we had a puppy someone abandoned at our house. I loved her to death but we had one day to find a new home to rent and couldn't afford crap. Luckily, we had someone to watch her.

You can give them up for adoption or maybe go to a shelter and have someone foster them till you get on your feet. I used to foster pets for people who couldn't care for them at the time. I know it's hard to give up your pets (I know first hand especially because I used to be depressed and pets were the only ones I could count on). But your life is in danger. I say leave ASAP.
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0 #2 Abuse is not the Norm — Mary C 2011-04-09 15:04
Just leave!
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+2 #1 help — Eileen 2011-04-09 11:00
There are shelters to go to. As for the animals, your life is more important. If a coworker or friend cannot take them give them to a shelter. But get yourself out of there. That is no way to live. I have been there, done that and I have kids. My life has been a lot better since. I have friends and a life now. I also go to church and Bible study. Please get help. If you do not know where to go, ask a police officer or a church goer. Good Luck
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